Wedding Ideas

Second Time’s a Charming Wedding, Part 1: Our Encore Bride Goes Boho

Posted on May 29 by Phoebe Lett

After divorcing more than a decade ago and raising two sons as a single mom, I had no idea that I would eventually find my true love and start a whole new chapter in my life. It was absolutely unexpected when we were introduced by our mutual friend in August, 2010. But cupid’s arrow hit us hard and we’ve been together ever since. Robert popped the question last fall…and, of course, I said YES!

Now the really funny part is that you’d think the style editor of New Jersey Bride would know exactly what kind of wedding to plan, down to every last detail. Well, I didn’t, and I still don’t! Although sites like Pinterest are super helpful (and didn’t even exist the first time I got engaged) all those amazing images and ideas also make it hard to decide on just one cake, one bouquet, one tablescape.

So, as I’m navigating through all the planning and decision-making, YOU are invited along for the ride. And I’ll even ask you to weigh-in on some of my choices.

The big difference between my two weddings is that the first one was the kind of conservative, traditional event I thought I should have—serious-looking engraved invitations, a simple white cake, billowy ball gown and an afternoon reception (with classical music!) at a private club. This time, my fiancé and I are throwing the kind of party we really want to have. And our six children will be our bridal attendants!

What’s interesting to Robert and me is that, over the last couple of decades, our taste has changed and so have our priorities. For example, there’s just no way I would spend thousands of dollars on a gown that I’ll wear for just a few hours.

That’s why, when I fell in love with a white crocheted Boho-style dress from Free People at the Mall at Short Hills (on sale for $99 plus free shipping), I grabbed it fast—because it reminds me of the free and easy way I dressed in college. Whether I wear that funky dress on my wedding day or to our rehearsal dinner, it makes me feel joyous, and that’s what’s really important to me as an encore bride: spending my time and money only on what will make our wedding day a fun and glorious occasion.

Over the last six months, I’ve collected hundreds of gorgeous images and DIY inspirations, and I’m so happy to share my favorites as I plan my August wedding right here in the Garden State!

Check back each week for more of Susan’s adventures as an encore bride – it’s going to be the best day ever! Next post: Susan and Robert’s wedding venue, the Vanderbilt Mansion in Madison.

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