We first met at Pearl Paint where Jaymes was working at the time. After becoming fast friends, we planned late-night meet-ups where I’d sneak out to meet him in his car. We’d laugh and talk until the sun came up and I’d sneak back in the house. One night we were talking about restaurants in NYC and I brought up my family’s restaurant Pino’s (which had since closed). As fate would have it, years before we ever met, Jaymes and his family actually visited the restaurant and even met my grandfather. His parents signed the baseball card he gave to them that day. It seemed as though the stars had aligned to have us be in each other’s lives.
We decided to play hooky from work one Friday and take a trip to the Bronx Zoo. We both love animals and with how gorgeous it was out, we couldn’t pass up a beautiful day like that. Afterward, Jaymes suggested we stop at a nearby park that had beautiful views, so we headed to Ross’ Docks to finish off our day. As we sat on the bench, he remembered he “left his keys in the car” and went to go grab them. When he came back, he pulled me to the side near the water and told me how much he loved me and how he wanted to spend his life with me. He finished his speech with, “I asked your mom, your uncle, your grandpa but there was one person I couldn’t ask…” He handed me a white box and when I opened it, live butterflies flew out! A few years ago, my grandmother passed away; we were extremely close, it was heartbreaking. But since her passing, my family and I have had an abundance of butterfly references—we believe that is her way of staying around. I was so overwhelmed that I started crying immediately. He got down on one knee and I couldn’t speak so I just nodded and kissed him. After a few seconds I realized he had hired one of our friends to sneak around and take pictures of the whole thing. It was so special and a moment I’ll never forget.
We wanted our theme to be travel. Our color scheme was dusty rose, rose gold, burgundy and navy. We gave out mini suitcases with candied almonds and customized luggage tags made by Keep It Sweet Studios as our favors.
We loved that it wasn’t a typical ballroom. The grounds were beautiful and we loved that there were multiple areas that we could use. We had our ceremony in the “secret garden,” used the the pavilion for cocktail hour, and then the reception took place in the meeting house with outdoor space for the fire pit. We also loved that they offered locally sourced seasonal foods—the food was amazing!
For cocktail hour we had locally sourced ingredients and seasonal passed appetizers: BBQ in a jar, a dim sum station and a harvest table. There was also a Moscow mule apothecary station for gourmet cocktails. For our reception we had salad with fresh goat cheese made and duet entrée of short ribs and stuffed capon with couscous and carrots. For dessert we had lemon cake with vanilla buttercream and raspberry jam, soft pretzels, gelato and cannolis. We even had an afterparty with brick-oven pizza and s’mores.
My dress had a lot of beading and lace details—I love it so much. It had a touch of vintage feel that worked perfectly with the venue and theme with the perfect combination of all of the different parts of other dresses that I liked. It was the only dress i put on that made me feel like “me.”
For Jamie, it was seeing all of our friends and family dancing and mingling and having a blast. We had a lot of people travel from all over the world so it was amazing to see them all in one room celebrating us. For Jaymes, it was, “getting to marry Jamie.”
We loved the outdoor ceremony space and getting married under a beautiful tree. Also the deejay kept great energy the whole reception, which was super important to us.
There was a minor miscommunication with getting the string trio for the ceremony but ultimately it all worked out perfectly. Probably a bunch of little things went wrong but we didn’t notice or care.
“Tangled Up In You,” by Staind
Drink lots of water the day before, get rest if you can. During the week of the wedding take a day to just relax, do nothing, go to a spa, whatever will calm your nerves. At the wedding there will be little hiccups or things won’t be exactly perfect but it won’t matter. It’s not about napkin colors or if you forgot a detail here or there, it’s about marrying your best friend and celebrating your love with your friends and family. All of the planning and preparation will seem like a distant memory, pick your battles, don’t overwhelm yourself and remember what it’s all about.