Wedding Ideas

First Thoughts Upon Meeting Your Future Spouse

Posted on October 23, 2015 by Francesca Sgambati

New Jersey Bride Mary and Joe Real Wedding
Mary and Joseph at The Stone House

A forum on Reddit recently asked married people what their first thoughts were upon meeting or seeing their future spouse. Some of the responses were hilarious, while some were heartfelt, but all of them had one thing in common: fate. It seems as though there are times when life will put people in the right place at the right time; causing two paths to cross and come together to the one path that is their happily-ever-after.  Here are some of our favorites:

“I met my wife while standing in line at Starbucks. I had ordered a soy white chocolate mocha. She was standing behind me and heard my order and commented “hey that’s my drink but girly!” I turned around and saw that she was dressed really nice and had big beautiful bright green eyes. So I blurted out “you’re an asshole! What’s your name?” We’ve been married a year now and have our first baby due in December.”
– skrillz2002

“Oh god, there’s that girl that talks all the time to every single person. Oh god, she’s getting on the elevator with me. She’s going to talk to me. Oh god, it’s just the two of us. Oh god, here it goes. I have to make actual conversation. Her: I like your shirt. Me: Oh, thank you.”
– Quick_Over_There 

New Jersey Bride Ashley and Andrew Real Wedding
Ashley and Andrew at One Atlantic


“Before we were even introduced I got one look at him and thought ‘Oh. That’s the guy. Shit. What am I going to do? I’m going to have to break up with my boyfriend and move out of our apartment.’ That was April of 1989. We’ve been married now over 20 years.”
– ScammerC

“Honestly? First thought was: “Hmm, he is so not my type, why am I attracted to him?” I couldn’t put my finger on what made him so special, but I knew we were going to be together. It was like seeing a bright green light in a sea of red ones.”
– Kaity_Bug


New Jersey Bride Krista and John Real Wedding
Krista and John at the Ryland Inn


“I met her at a fan convention… thought she was hot as hell when I first saw her and knew I wanted to know her more than just on a superficial level. A group of us went to breakfast and when a friend was about to sit next to her at a Denny’s, I intercepted the seat. We spent the next hour chatting, and I was her “hero” and got her milk for her tea. We spent the rest of the weekend together. A long-distance relationship, thousands of dollars in flights, a lengthy immigration process… and here we are, married. Best fan convention ever.”
– estrd


New Jersey Bride Meredith Peter Real Wedding
Meredith and Peter at The Carriage House


“My friends, who were friends with my now wife, told me that she had asked them about me after she saw me at a party. I didn’t see her at that party, but the next time we were all together my friends said “There’s that girl that was asking about you last week.” My first thought was that they were making fun of me (I’m not the most social guy) so I’d go talk to this girl that was crazy beautiful. But I went up and talked to her and she was the coolest person ever. That was 21 years, 15 of them married to each other, and 2 kids ago. She’s even more beautiful now at 40 than she was at 19 when I met her.”
– hatecopsandcats

“I got really excited because I recognized him from someone’s terrible description. I’d met him at my then job. It used to be that if you messed your time up by your computer shutting down or some such, you would e-mail him with your time fixes. I had assumed he was some cranky nerd in back, so I would write these stupid e-mails with DnD references in them and make jokes that weren’t funny but definitely nerdy. I mentioned that I’d never seen him before to my supervisor and she said “Oh well. He’s tall, I think. Shaves his head like Mr. Clean. He has this… well…. I think it’s a birthmark…. ” This was what I had to go on. He walked by like a week later from the other side of our 300 agent call center and I excitedly shouted out his name and introduced myself.”
– georgiespies12


New Jersey Bride Meredith Shawn Real Wedding
Meredith and Shawn at the Windrift Hotel


“I met my wife in Italy at the Trevi Fountain. I was double fisting two Heinekens and saw her across the plaza and leaned over to my best friend and said “I’m going to marry that girl!” He said “shut up you’re drunk.”
– Spyderpig89

Is he into me? I think he’s into me, but I can’t tell… From the beginning, it was clear that he was working hard to get to know me, but I couldn’t tell if he was doing that because he’s a genuinely nice person (which he is) or because he’s a genuinely nice person who also had a thing for me. Turns out it was the second. I’m glad. :)” -PMcatPics


Dana Andrew Real Wedding
Dana and Andrew at Stockton Seaview


“Rather than try and give a funny answer, I’m going with what I really, actually thought. When I was introduced to my (future) wife, in college, I was just absolutely struck with a feeling of how beautiful I thought she was, and how amazing she was. I had dated a fair number of girls in high school and college and thought I was totally immune from being head over heels for someone. I found out in an instant that I was wrong. My mouth went dry and my heart felt like it was beating twice as hard as usual. No joke. I’m not bullshitting when I say I feel the same way today (30 years later!) when I see her, especially if I’ve been away for a few days on business. I know she’s gotten older, but I still see the same face I saw back then, and it makes me so happy, every time. Sorry if that’s too sappy, but I’m an incredibly lucky person.”
– DimiDrake


“I thought it was too easy. He seemed so easy to be around for me, and I never had to pretend I was something I wasn’t. I was all me, right from the get go, and he was himself too. 8 years later we are married now with a home and lots of pets.”
– YesHunty


Jennifer and Bill at The Carriage House

“We were twelve and in math class. Some boys in the class were being loud and giving this new kid a weird nickname. I looked up and saw this gawky, ridiculously skinny, pasty white geek in glasses and braces. I remember thinking he had really good posture for being so short and a goofy smile. 13 years later we’re married, and he became the hottie.”


“Love at first sight. I immediately knew I had to talk with her no matter what. I’m very shy and it’s hard for me to approach someone I don’t know let alone someone im attracted to. I over came that because I wouldn’t miss this chance. Fuck all hell! Wound up making out with her and the more I learned about her the deeper I fell. We’ve been through a lot together and we’ll never separate. I love you Fifi!”
– PornCritic3-D


Rachel and Kevin at Forsgate Country Club


“Many people don’t believe me, but it’s absolutely true. When I first saw her, my thoughts were “She’s perfect. I will marry her one day.” It took about a week to get up the courage to speak to her.”


“I remember my grandmother telling me about the first time she met my grandfather and how much she disliked him initially and thought he was really arrogant. Then she discovered that the way he acted then wasn’t really the way he was, he was just really nervous because he thought that she was so beautiful. She gave him another chance and they ended up married for over 40 years until his death.”
– -eDgAR-



Kristine and Michael Liberty House Wedding
Kristine and Michael at Liberty House


“‘Huh. There’s a man on the couch.’ I’d left work earlier than normal and gone over to my next door neighbors to hang out a bit because I was feeling headachey and I didn’t want to spend the entire evening alone in my apartment with nothing to do. Turns out, he’d invited over an interesting guy he met at a bar. We got to talking. Then we started hanging out. Then we became best friends. Then I went through that phase where I had a big crush on him but I didn’t want to do anything about it, because I didn’t want to lose his friendship if things didn’t work out. Then I got to the point where I didn’t care anymore, I really wanted to sleep with this guy. And now we’ve been married for a few years. Just had our first kid. We’ll find out if our second is going to be a boy or girl next week.”
– rpsoon

“I said That’s your girlfriend dude? to my brother. He was in 6th grade. They stayed good friends after their week of hand holding and when she was 16 one thing lead to another. We dated through college, got married after 8 years together, kid #2 is coming next month and we’ve been together something like 15 years. For reference I’m 3 years older than her, I guess that matters too.”
– pixel-freak


New JErsey Bride Eric and Elizabeth Real Wedding
Elizabeth and Eric at Ashford Estate


“This sounds cheesy, but my husband and I both agree that when we met, it was truly that “love at first sight” kind of thing. We were 20 and in college when we met and have been together for 7 years, married for 1.5, and now we’re expecting a baby boy this spring.
When he opened the door, it felt like time stopped and we were the only people in the room. It was the strangest feeling that neither of us had experienced before nor have we since.
Since my friend and I were just picking something up, we left after a few minutes. And he forgot to get my number (of course). So the next day he went out on his skateboard and skated around our college town (it was 1 square mile, so pretty small) looking for me. About 5 days later he found me playing beer pong at my friend’s house 10 doors down from his own. After that we were never apart!
EDIT: forgot to add that as I left his house after meeting him, I broke up with the guy I was seeing literally as I was walking down the stairs of his house. I just knew.”- jacobbaby 


“I used to date her best friend when we were teenagers. She and I were inseparable and after my gf cheated on me and dumped me, she was there for me. Our friendship turned into love. That was 15 years ago, 7 of them married and now we have 2 beautiful sons! It’s amazing how life works out sometimes. I told her the day we started officially dating (July 4th 2000) that i was gonna marry her someday.”
– HollyWood45