Wedding Ideas

10 Steps to the Perfect Choreographed Wedding Dance

Posted on August 06, 2015 by Susan Brierly Bush

A Beach Wedding at The Channel Club, Monmouth - New Jersey Bride
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1. Make your first dance a complete surprise. Seriously, don’t tell your mom or even your bestie. 


Choreographing first dance. Jason Rhee Photography2. Don’t get attached to one tune. Just because a song is sentimental doesn’t mean it has high entertainment value. Give your choreographer several options.

A Wedding at Congress Hall, Cape May - New Jersey Bride
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3. Choose a song that’s no longer than two minutes. It will be easier to choreograph and more engaging for your guests to watch.


Second Tim Around Wedding - Add Some “Broadway” to Your First Dance - New Jersey Bride
Lori Fleissner Photography

4. Practice, practice, practice. Review your choreographer’s notes after each rehearsal and listen to your song at home and in your car.



A City Wedding at The Hyatt Regency Jersey City on the Hudson - New Jersey Bride
John Arcara Photography

5. As you get comfortable with your routine, throw in your own ad-libs and comedic touches to personalize the performance.


A Wedding at The Venetian, Garfield - New Jersey Bride
Tom Harmon Photography

6. Decide whether your song will be played by a band, deejay or through your venue’s sound system. Your rehearsal version should be identical to your performance version.


A Shore Wedding at Mallard Island Yacht Club, Manahawkin - New Jersey Bride
Heyn Photography

7. At least once, be sure to rehearse in your actual performance space. 


First Dance8. Remember, your wedding reception shoes might not be suitable (or safe) for dancing. Consider a separate pair of dance shoes.


A Wedding at Windows on the Water - New Jersey Bride
Jeff Tisman Photography

9. Don’t drink and dance. Schedule your performance early at your reception, before the champagne bubbles make you too tipsy to remember your moves.


Daryl Zweben and Jesse Hom's Wedding at Shadowbrook - New Jersey Bride
Brian Dorsey Studios

10. Don’t worry if you misstep; most guests won’t notice. If you aim for choreography worthy of Dancing with the Stars, you’re adding a lot of pressure to an already stressful day.