Real Weddings

Mary and David at Eagle Oaks Golf and Country Club

Details of the day:

My husband and I grew up two miles apart from one another and have been very good friends since kindergarten. We remained friends through grade school and college, growing closer to each other until the summer of 2011 when we went on our first date. We were engaged August 8, 2012 at the Ritz Carlton in New York and decided to quickly move forward with our wedding plans because of my father. My dad had been battling pancreatic cancer for two years at that point, and was doing alright, but the most important part of my wedding day for me was for my dad to be there.

Christmas of 2012 my dad became very ill and was in and out of hospitals. On January 19 he seemed to be slipping away from us, so we had the most heartfelt conversation of my life: I asked him if he wanted me to get married the next day in the ICU so he could be with me for my wedding. His response was: “Yes, I would like that very much.” My friends and family quickly gathered around my dad to enjoy my wedding in the ICU at Riverview Hospital.

We were married in front of close friends and family. I wore my half-finished dress, my shoes, and flowers similar to the design I had originally picked for our big day. A cake was made in the cafeteria at Riverview, the room was decorated, and my Dad wore a flower on his hospital robe. My brother walked me down the aisle of the ICU as my soon-to-be husband and the priest stood at the end of the hall, in my father’s room. We had a champagne toast with my dad, pictures and celebration. My wedding was the hardest thing I’ve ever had to do in my life.

My mom decided that our original wedding celebration date, February 2, would go on regardless of what was happening in our lives, especially due to the fact that we were now married. That wedding day was tough  since the only thing I’ve ever wanted since I was a little girl was for my dad to walk me down the aisle. I got married at St. George’s-by-the-river. My brother walked my mom down the aisle and then came back for me. It was a very emotional day, but the best part is that my Dad was still able to see it from his hospital bed with his iPad. Someone at the church held an iPad and my Dad was able to view my entire ceremony. We have picture of him on the iPad as well as me speaking to him on the iPad. He spoke to me during and right after I was married. I don’t think anyone could have asked for a more special day.

My favorite part:

My favorite part was that my dad was able to see my wedding. He was able to see us, hear us, and be a part of it from a distance. The band, flowers, food, venue, and pictures were all great but nothing can beat that my Dad was alive to celebrate my wedding. My wedding was very elegant with orchids and candles everywhere, and our guests raved about every element. Their enjoyment made it even more special for me.

Advice for other brides:

In my dad’s memory, I want to share my story with other brides that may have gone through similar difficulties surrounding their wedding, especially if they are going through it now. It was an incredible day.

Sources:

Bride’s Gown: Pronovias
Bride’s Shoes: Stuart Weitzman
Bride’s Jewelry: Swarovski
Bridesmaid Dresses: Dessy
Hair: Della Mare
Makeup: Beauty by Gabriel
Groom’s Attire: Cozy – Love Lane
Groomsmen Attire: Cozy – Love Lane
Flowers: Cindy Hubeny
Cake: Eagle Oaks Golf and Country Club
Invites: Anna Soiree
Music: Brian Kirk and the Jirks
Favors: Lottery scratch offs with a tag, “Wishes you riches from the new Mr. and Mrs.”
Rentals: First Class Limousine
Linens: Eagle Oaks Golf and Country Club
Honeymoon: Tahiti

wedding details

Hometowns

Long Branch

Ceremony Location

St. George's by-the-river

Reception Location

Eagle Oaks Golf & Country Club

Photographer

John Decker

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