This desire for brides—and grooms—to inject as much of their own unique personalities into their special day and the undeniable and fascinating power of the latest onslaught of American Idol-type reality television have come together to make this trend a reception “do,” but not without some guidance and plenty of preparation.

Nita Marino, a psychologist in Hoboken, was intrigued by the possibility, but was reluctant at first. It was her fiancé, Charles, who finally convinced her with the logical, “When else are we going to have all of our friends and family together in the same place?” She finally relented and chose the Beatles’ “When I’m 64.” She made sure the band knew her choice and was prepared to back her up. She practiced faithfully every day. The final result? “It was like nothing I’ve ever experienced before,” she says. “Would I do it again? In a heartbeat.”

Not all brides who boldly opt to sing are necessarily trained singers. But all brides, whether having any performing experience or not, will benefit from adequate preparation.

Mia Riker-Norrie is a professional voice coach in Montclair and has worked with many area brides. “Your voice is an instrument like any other instrument,” she says. “You’ve got to practice!”

One of the first things a professional coach will help you with is the all-important song selection. You’ve got to know yourself and your limits to choose a song that will emphasize your strengths and minimize your weaknesses. Mia adds that six months of weekly or biweekly lessons and practice would be ideal. It’s not just about memorizing the song; it’s learning how and when to breathe, something many nonprofessionals take for granted.

TIPS FOR SINGING BRIDES:

1. Choose your song carefully. Don’t choose something too “big” for your voice.

2. Save the trendy songs for the dance floor; think of your grandchildren watching the video in fifty years...we’re thinking Gershwin, not Lady Gaga.