Keep in mind that “the ceremony prelude is an opportunity when people will really feel your sentiment,” says Melissa Sweet, of Sweet Music, a group of Julliard graduates whose range includes classical music to today’s hits.

And Floralie Tulgan of the Gramercy Arts Trio advises to “pick something that means something to you—something that evokes a certain emotion.” Some brides today, says Tulgan, “are coming down the aisle to music you wouldn’t consider a classical or typical wedding march. People are picking their favorite love song or favorite song [in general]. We can accommodate these eclectic choices—things you wouldn’t associate with a wedding. We rarely say it doesn’t work.”

Sweet agrees. “Most people don’t think of putting love songs or movie music into their ceremony, but many brides say they really want something different. They don’t know that they can have classical music and something different all at the same time,” says Sweet, who has coupled jazzy recessionals with classical processionals.

Another option is to add some cultural flavor. You can match a traditional processional song with an unlikely instrument, like a bridal march performed with strings and trumpet for a mariachi vibe. Adding an ethnic twist is most fun with the recessional—the exuberant music played right after you and your groom are announced.

Searching for the right performers is even more important to set the mood. “Choose a ceremony group that has experience with love songs and a wide range of styles,” says Sweet, to give you more options in case you change your mind. She also advises to find an ensemble experienced in the particular style of music you’re looking for, otherwise, “it can sound awkward if not performed with the right ‘feel.’”

“Don’t pick amateurs,” says Tulgan, “because you never know what to expect, and everybody gets what they pay for.” Tulgan also suggests getting recommendations on performers and finding out if the group heard on the sample CD is the group (and quality) you’ll hear on your wedding day.

Whatever you choose, though, will never sound as romantic as the day it’s played just for you and your groom.