When Pamela Jaye Wiesner (“P.J.” to friends) reluctantly walked into her friend’s wedding as the only single in her circle of friends, she never thought she’d meet the man of her dreams. And the last thing Jordan Feinstein expected, wearing a sage-green ruffled tuxedo shirt as an ironic nod to the wedding couple’s theme, was that his soulmate just might be in attendance. Although they had both graduated from Boston University and had many mutual friends, they hadn’t met before. Despite the green ruffles, P.J. and Jordan instantly hit it off, and a romance blossomed.

Jordan, originally from Cleveland, is an officer in the United States Air Force stationed in Omaha, Nebraska. P.J., from Edison, was a freelance writer living it up in N.Y.C. After a year-and-a-half-long cross-country relationship, Jordan proposed to a stunned and thrilled P.J. in front of 50 college friends (and a videographer) by spraypainting a landmark boulder “P.J. MARRY ME”—in green, of course.

She knew she wanted to get married somewhere close to her parents in Edison, and the search for something unique and dramatic began. After looking at lofts in Manhattan, they found a new venue with the sleek sophistication of a New York loft while still being close to home—the Stone House at Stirling Ridge. May 25, 2008, would be the date—exactly three weeks before Jordan would be deployed to the Middle East.

P.J. saw the work of wedding planner Julie Conley on The Style Network’s “Who’s Wedding Is It Anyway?” and immediately knew that Julie was the woman to bring her vision to life. P.J.’s mother and Julie did the legwork and would report back to the couple in Omaha. “We’d hit the ground running, then we’d get axed and have to start all over,” laughs Conley. There was no question that green would play a role—it was that fateful ruffled shirt that drew them together, after all. Conley designed the dramatic tablesettings done in black-and-white damask with vivid-green underlays. She also designed the centerpieces using calla lilies, white hydrangea, and green verbena.

The four bridesmaids wore elegant black dresses from Priscilla of Boston, and the maid of honor, P.J.’s sister Rachel, wore a strapless version of the same dress adorned with a rhinestone brooch. P.J. chose an Amsale silk-taffeta ruched V-neck column gown with a chapel train. The bridesmaids carried white ranunculus and peonies, and the bride opted for an all-white peony bouquet. The groom donned a Hugo Boss tuxedo.