Whether set in your own backyard, on the family farm, or in your favorite Shore town, a casual evening centered around the barbecue can be the perfect starting point for your new life together. (Any of these ideas would also work perfectly as a rehearsal dinner or shower.)

As with a more formal wedding, options abound. For an intimate reception, why not gather your family and friends in your backyard or at a favorite park and fire up the grill? Keep it simple with hamburgers, hotdogs, and all the trimmings, or upgrade a little to steaks or ribs. And when your guests leave, send them home with a jar of barbecue sauce so they can be reminded of your special day at their next cookout.

If you've always dreamed of a Shore wedding, try a clam bake on the beach (permits and restrictions vary by town—be sure to check before you start planning).Guests can enjoy everything from clams and lobster to sausage, corn-on-the-cob, and potatoes. Shell-covered photo frames or large conch shells filled with saltwater taffy will send guests home with a smile on their faces.

Or for something more exotic, try a luau. Companies throughout the state, like DRJ Catering Services in Monmouth (800-664-0096; drjcatering.com), can take care of everything, from roasting a whole pig to handling equipment rentals. Try decorating your space with potted orchids, and let each guest choose one at the end of the night as a lasting memento of your wedding.

In the end, whether it's hot dogs or a whole hog, your bbq wedding will be something you and your guests will never forget.