She is a leading wedding and event specialist in the New Jersey, New York, and Connecticut areas, and has worked on a myriad of projects ranging from sophisticated intimate weddings to annual awards dinners and ceremonies such as the United Nations International Day for the Eradication of Poverty. Her specialty is ethnic fusion weddings, themed events, and international affairs. If you’ve got a question of your own for our experts, email it to  and we’ll be answering them on a regular basis.

I am a total type-A personality, wanting to micro-manage every aspect of my wedding. But I also want to enjoy myself the day of the ceremony and not worry about the place cards being arranged just so. It there a way to have the best of both worlds?

It’s important for you to let go and enjoy the experience of your wedding day. After you have worked so hard and been diligent to get every detail perfect, you owe it to yourself to truly feel comfortable enough to let your vendors do their part. One important tool that I use is an itinerary of the day’s events. This way everyone is on the same page. If you still are not at ease, take the time to invest in hiring a coordinator for the “day of” services. This way all your details are communicated and executed exactly the way you intended. You can now relax and be the queen bee and not the worker bee.

I am planning on having a makeup artist come to the house before the wedding to do my hair and makeup. I’ve offered her services to my bridesmaids as well, without fully thinking out the idea. Is this something that I should be paying for, or will each bridesmaid know to pay her own way?

Some brides choose to pay for the hair and makeup services as their gift to the bridesmaids. Others give all the pricing and times available to allow the bridesmaids to decide for themselves. Either way is correct, just make sure you communicate your intent clearly and everyone is informed.